Now you know that all my life I have firmly dedicated to the encouragement, empowerment and equipment of girls and women. I have done this and I am doing it because I do believe that for centuries women and girls have been under the iron cloud of culture and tradition which has kept us limited and crushed. I speak, write and organise events regularly that are purposefully designed to propel the role of women in our society. Most importantly I do this because I believe that male and female are created into the image of God’s and because of that we are equally worthy.
Yes, I do believe that there is still work to be done, in fact, much work to be done. The unseen girls of China, the undervalued daughters of India, the oppressed girls of Africa, the impoverished women of South America and many girls and women that live in our minds need our voice and contribution to help them with their self-image, role in society and support so that their lives become better and better.
Recently though I have been awakened by the truth that while we are doing a great and necessary work with the girls and women, our boys and men have been left far behind. Our focus on the empowerment of women is rightful and needed but I do believe this must not come to the expense and belittlement of our boys and man.
We only have balance when both sides have equal weight.
It seems to me that we ( the western side of the world specifically) for more than half a century have put weight into one side of that scale only, the side that encourages and pushes girls to be brave, strong and courageous, sadly, this consciously or unconsciously has left the boys and men trailing far behind.
Our families and society need both girls and boys, men and women who are heard, loved, know that they belong and are encouraged to be the best of who they are created to be.
According to the United Nation statistics and National Data in some of most developed countries like the USA, UK.. and many countries in Western Europe boys are in crisis. Here are just a few facts to help us see the argument.
Something common that the young women observe and are backed up by statistics about the nowadays young men is that men from the age of 25-31 years old are 66% more likely to live with their parents than girls in that age. The Peter Pan generation. Boys who are not encouraged to grow up and be responsible.
Sadly, our girls and women are not benefiting from men who are not championed to mature and become responsible, strong and brave with their lives.
Now don’t get me wrong, there are men who are mean, male bosses who are advantageous and fathers who are pure evil, but so are many women. We must not punish our men to pay for all bad done by men in history. We must not make our boys pay for the bad boys. That solves absolutely nothing.
If we as women aren’t doing anything for men and boys, then we are really doing nothing for our girls and women.
Strong women help and support strong men and strong men stand up and encourage strong women
I am a strong woman today because I was nurtured and helped by strong men. My father, my brother and my relative males encouraged me to be a strong woman. My husband loves my strength and is not challenged by it. That is how it should be!
So, dear mammas and daddies. Dear sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, siblings and cousins. Dear grandparents and friends. We all must fight to not leave our boys and men behind. Nor our girls and women for that matter.
We must all press into the future holding little and big hands of our boys and men and our girls and our women in life and together walk in the same step and rhythm. None left behind. None considered unable to be or become all they were created to be because of the other. We must encourage our boys to be strong and our girls to be courageous, we must help our boys to lead and our girls to propel in life. We must teach our boys to respect and understand girls and our girls to respect and get along with boys. If we invest only on one side the scale that will tip over and none will be able to stand up.
For only by helping both sides, boys and girls, men and women we would be able to have equality, balance and grow families, relationships, generations and a society that is healthy and strong.
So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them. Gen 1:27 AMP
Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other. Thus, no marriage or family, no ward or stake is likely to reach its full potential until husbands and wives, mothers and fathers, men and women work together in unity of purpose, respecting and relying upon each other's strengths. Sheri L. Dew
What can we do today to make sure that no boy or girl is left behind?